Besarnya Kekuasaan Allah

Moga kita insaf dgn tidak berlengah2 lagi utk berbuat baik dan ingat mengingati dgn kebenaran dan kesabaran.

3 Berita - satu Minda

Saya perlu mencoret apa yang bermain di fikiran saya hari ni kalau tak ia akan mengganggu konsentrasi dan fokus saya. That's me, otak memang ligat fikir macam2. Nak kena kawal sikit aktiviti kat atas ni, tu yg saya rasa ia perlu diluahkan di sini. Mudah2an ada pengajaran yang saya boleh ambil.

Semalam saya terlupa nak tutup komputer, jadi pepagi lagi saya dah bukak yahoo news dan saya agak terkejut dgn satu berita ni psl pemain tenis peberet saya utk kala & tika ini, Roger Ferderer kalah kat 'quarter final' kepada pemain perancis, Tsonga-sape tah dia ni tapi ranking dia no 12. Anyway, anything can happen kan...so tempoh terkejut saya kejap jer..hehe..

Kedua, berita yg saya tunggu-tunggu dari buah hati. Alhamdulillah, doa saya, abah ummi dan semua yg terlibat dimakbulkan. Allah Maha Pemurah..buah hati dah usaha sebaik2nya, kami pun dah doa sungguh2. Allah bagi..sujud syukur la apa lagi. Kalau jumpa orang susah rasa nak bagi sedekah tanda kesyukuran..:)

Ketiga, baru beberapa minit tadi dapat sms dari Kak Long, katanya mak sedara kami meninggal. Terkesima saya. Kenapa? Sebab saya baru je bersembang dgn adik saya semalam dan bila dia bagi laporan pasal mak saudara saya ni, saya kata kat dia, pada pandangan saya tanda-tanda mak sedara ni nak 'pergi' sangat 'obvious', elok sangat melawat ketika masih ada peluang. Lepas solat magrib semalam, saya teringatkan kematian dan hati saya sangat sayu bila mengenangkan apalah nasib saya di sana, adakah Allah terima amalan2 saya, sempat ke saya mengumpul amalan secukupnya untuk kebahagiaan yang abadi.Tup-tup hari ni dapat berita mak sedara saya meninggal dunia. Betul pulak andaian saya. Seorang rakan yang tinggi ilmu agamanya pernah bagitau saya yang pada pandangan dia saya dikurniakan firasat @ instinct yang kuat. Ala2 6th sense gitu, saya boleh baca apa yang tersirat, jgn marah. Kalau betul, alhamdulillah atas kurniaan Allah ni. Selalunya saya boleh agak dgn tepat..hehe...Tapi apa-apapun, saya anggap hanyalah kebetulan. Hanya Allah tahu apa yang akan berlaku. Ajal, kalau dah sampai takkan terlewat walau sesaat. Al-fatihah untuk arwah mak sedara saya. Beliau sangat rapat dgn mak saya walaupun beliau adalah kakak ipar ummi dan abg ummi dah lama meninggal dunia, dia sayang ummi macam adik sendiri. Anak-anak beliau pun sangat sayang dan menghormati ummi dan jika ummi buat kenduri mereka pasti hadir. Saya pasti rindukan mak sedara saya ni, akan saya kenang dalam setiap doa, akan saya hadiahkan bacaan Al-Quran kepadanya, insya-Allah.

Apa-apa pun saya teringat jugak pada pesanan abah supaya menjaga setiap patah perkataan saya kerana kata abah mulut saya masin. Entahlah banyak 'incident' kata-kata saya menjadi realiti tapi bagi saya itu hanya kebetulan, semua kehendak Allah dan Allah Maha Berkuasa atas segala-galanya. Banyak jugak incident yang baik, alhamdulillah, tapi kalau yg tidak baik, mohon Allah hindarkan daripada berlaku.

Pernah satu ketika dulu salah sorang adik saya melukai hati saya dan dia tidak mintak maaf, lepas setengah jam, dia ditimpa kemalangan, teruk keretanya remuk tapi alhamdulillah dia okey. Abah terus tanya saya adakah saya marah kat adik saya ni, saya kata takdelah, walaupan hati saya terluka. Abah tahu perasaan saya dan terus bagi nasihat supaya tidak marah kat orang. Saya betul2 tak marah. Cuma sedih je. Alhamdulillah, saya dah pandai kawal marah saya dengan banyakkan solat, baca Quran dan mengingati Allah. Kalau tak buat semua ni, mau saya asyik naik darah je, masa saya remaja, adik bongsu bagi saya gelaran khas - kakak tiri..hehe...maklumlah mungkin ada sikit2 darah Arab kat dalam badan saya ni.

Anyway, bukan kah setiap kata-kata adalah doa dan setiap perkataan kita dinilai dan dicatit ganjarannya oleh dua malaikat. Kena ingat juga nasihat abah ni. Mudah2an saya sentiasa bercakap dan bersangka yang baik-baik saja. Hati tenang, hidup harmoni, pahala pun dapat.

Zaman Internet

Gaya hidup memang dah berubah dengan adanya internet. Kita boleh belajar macam2 termasuklah  memasak sendiri. Cari je resepi idaman kat internet. Masa kecik2 katanya ummi saya suka makan. Saya tak tolak apa jua yg terhidang, cukup berselera berbanding abang saya yang agak kurang suka makan. Apa yg abang saya tak nak, tolak je kat saya..hehe...Tapi bila dah besar, ummi kata saya agak menjaga apa yg saya makan. Mesti la jaga kan sebab nak jaga badan...:D.

Nak makan kenalah masak. Saya akui saya kurang berpengalaman memasak, saya hanya masak bila perlu saja tapi ia tidak sedikit pun buat saya bimbang. Bagi saya 'anyone can cook'. Cuma perlu praktis je. Nak masak apa..google..macam2 resepi ada kat internet. Tambahan pula ramai yg suka tulis kat blog mcm2 resepi siap dgn gambar lagi...memang mudah. Kalau cara belajar macam saya yg kena tengok baru senang nak faham, cuba je cari kat youtube. Ada video2 untuk ditonton.

Saya jumpa beberapa blog yg resepi2 agak menarik. Saya 'paste' link kat bawah nie supaya senang saya nk google bila perlu. Dah terfikir2 nk buat biskut raya ni..haha...pompuan la katakan...

http://www.kongsiresepi.com
http://yateasybakes.blogspot.com

layaann...

Food

I've got a new tv program to watch now and then for relaxing purpose. It's called 'cook yourself thin'..hehe...it's about this  'celebrity chef' with puurrrfect BMI pays home visits to advise individuals with eating disorders. Well, some of her tips e.g. replacing fizzy drinks and fatty cheese indulgence with home made soft drink and low-fat dessert looks promising. Anyway, I, myself need to stop some experimentation with food as well. This week I decided to consume whole milk instead of my usual semi-skimmed because I want to get those natural animal fats on my face. My cereal and tea taste more yummy, thanks to those extra fats. But I think I'll have to stop taking dairy milk for the time being because my mission is accomplished - my face does look rounder and chubbier now. It reminds me of my undergraduate years when I love to drink whole fresh milk so much. I would order few bottles every week from the local farmer. The uncle milkman would deliver our rich and yummy fresh milk right to our front door. However, after I shocked my mum with and chubby face, I had no choice but to opt for semi-skimmed milk until last week.

It's time to get myself fitter and healthier, though, I know I'm blessed with high metabolism rate and ideal frame and height (i think), some people in this country (with lots of obese residents) whom I sometimes met (e.g. nurses, students etc.) may think that I'm in my twenties instead of thirties, alhamdulillah...haha..but I do want to stay that way till my old days, insya-Allah :D

Kasih Sayang

Setiap kali saya rasa perlu ‘suntikan motivasi’, selepas Allah, saya akan teringatkan kedua ibubapa saya kerana saya tahu mereka akan sentiasa berada di sisi saya, mereka akan memberi semangat dan memberi ‘moral support’ dan menyokong apa yang saya lakukan. Ibu saya tidak pernah berkata ‘jangan’ apabila saya nak buat sesuatu. Ummi percayakan kami. Kasih sayang mereka tiada sempadan dan siapalah saya tanpa mereka. Bukan senang membesarkan sembilan orang anak dan bukan mudah memastikan kami mendapat peluang untuk belajar setinggi mungkin tapi abah dan ummi lakukan semua itu tanpa meminta balasan. Abah saya sentiasa mengingatkan kami betapa pentingnya imu pengetahuan. Alhamdulillah, kami semua mampu berdikari. Kata abah, sebelum kami lahir lagi abah dah mula berdoa moga Allah mengurniakan anak-anak yang minat belajar dan dapat belajar sehingga ke pusat pengajian tinggi. Selain berusaha, doa adalah senjata orang islam (katanya abah). Contohnya, mengikut doktor yang merawat abah ketika abah terlantar di hospital akibat demam panas yang abah tidak akan mempunyai anak. Tetapi abah tidak putus asa, abah terus berdoa agar dikurniakan zuriat dan tu dia, Allah bagi abah sembilan orang anak. Subhanallah.

Bagi abah, ilmu pengetahuan lebih penting daripada harta dunia. Ilmu akan membantu kita hidup di landasan yang betul tetapi harta perlu dijaga. Silap perkiraan, harta boleh menjerumuskan kita ke neraka. Harta dunia penting tetapi ia bukan tujuan hidup ni. Abah juga mengajar kami supaya menguruskan harta sebaik mungkin. Hidup di dunia ni biarlah bersederhana. Tak perlu ikut cara orang lain yang berlumba-lumba mengumpul dan mempamerkan kekayaan. Setiap tindakan yang nak diambil perlu difikirkan semasak-masaknya. Pendek kata, kebijaksanaan sangat penting untuk kesejahteraan hidup yang berpanjangan. Bukan setakat bijak untuk masa sekarang tetapi juga perlu bijak untuk masa depan. Saya rasa sebab tu saya tak pernah teringin untuk mendapatkan harta-harta dunia yang menjadi kebanggaan sesetengah orang. Saya boleh hidup dalam keadaan sederhana, insya-Allah. Abah juga mengajar kami supaya mementingkan nilai-nilai diri (values) seperti amanah, jujur, bertanggungjawab dan lain-lain dan sebab itu juga saya tidak suka orang yang tiada ‘values’. Saya tak suka orang yang tidak jujur, pentingkan diri sendiri dan tidak bertanggungjawab. Bagi saya mereka yang mempunyai sifat sebegini hanya akan merugikan diri mereka sendiri. Untuk senang dan berjaya kita perlu harung susah payahnya dulu. Bab kata abah ‘kalau tak dipecahkan ruyung, manakan dapat sagunya’. No shortcut okay. ‘bersusah-susah dahulu, bersenang-senang kemudian’. Keluarga kami bukan keluarga subsidi, hidup mesti bermaruah dan tidak suka meminta-minta dan menumpang kesenangan orang lain. Memang benar, sifat dan sikap kita dicorakkan oleh ibubapa kita dan saya suka semua sifat dan sikap yang ibubapa saya dah bentuk dan bina. Alhamdulillah. Thank you ya Allah.

Saya bersyukur dan sangat-sangat bersyukur atas segala jasa baik mereka dan berdoa moga Allah merahmati dan memberkati mereka. Saya petik kenyataan yang berkaitan ‘duty to parents’ daripada  http://www.islam101.com/sociology

That’s why Quran lays stress on feeling grateful to parents, and doing good to them. “And your Lord has ordained that you shall worship none save Him and shall do your parents a good turn.” What does a ‘good turn’ mean? It includes obeying them, speaking softly, avoiding harsh words or harsh tone, giving them company when they are lonely, caring for their physical and psychological needs (especially in their old age), and praying to Allah that He may bless them and have mercy on them.

Mudah-mudahan saya berpeluang untuk berada di sisi mereka ketika mereka kesunyian dan memerlukan perhatian anak-anak.  

Saya nak hidup bahagia yg penuh dgn kasih sayang.

What about tennis?

I love sports, and I enjoy watching sports. Yesterday I watched a tennis match (Wimbledom) between Kimiko - a 40 year old Japanese player and Venus, 31 year old American player. Well, I'm sure many people know Venus but not Kimiko right. To me in sports, age does matter because younger players usually are more agile and energetic, essential ingredients to win the match. Kimiko makes me hooked to the screen and I could not help admiring her, she was so calm (advantage of being older) and accurate...no error, a very excellent player. When they were in tie breaks few times, I thought, that was it, out you go Venus but the result was not surprising for Williams. Venus or her sister are true sportswomen with mental strength and endurance to win such match.

So what about tennis that really struck me? Lies in those remarkable tennis players who have mental power that keep them fighting and ability to endure the pressure until they won the match. I'm impressed.

Ramadhan – Bulan yang kurindui

Rasa seronok muncul lagi bila membaca email berkenaan kuliah petang ni. Seusai solat asar, saya terus ke masjid/surau berkenaan. Tabiat ni sukar untuk saya kawal. Saya sangat suka berada di masjid. Mudah2an Allah permudahkan dan izinkan saya ‘istiqamah’. Ia amalan baik kan...:D

Sampai di masjid/surau, kuliah dah mula tapi tak ramai yang hadir dan saya wakil tunggal ‘sisters’..hehe..mungkin mereka dalam perjalanan. Saya nak jumpa rakan-rakan sebab dah lama tak jumpa rakan-rakan senegara dari fakulti lain. Saya ‘plan’ untuk membuat catatan nota dan ‘share’ di blog saya supaya ramai yang dapat manfaatnya. Alhamdulillah, rakan-rakan (termasuk pelajar2 baru) sampai selepas 20 minit kuliah mula.

Katanya ustaz topic hari ni berkenaan puasa. Beliau memulakan kuliah dengan peringatan ‘rewards’ menghadiri majlis ilmu. Yang saya ingat adalah para malaikat akan mendoakan mereka yg berada di majlis ilmu, memohon kepada Allah agar mengampunkan dosa-dosa mereka. Syahdu rasa di hati bila mengenangkan betapa rahmat Allah itu luas.

Kemudian beliau menerangkan perkara-perkara asas puasa-definasi, tujuan dan rahsia puasa. Antara yang saya catat adalah;

·         Puasa ada 3 peringkat – peringkat umum (orang awam), peringkat khusus dan peringkat khusus khusus

·         Peringkat umum – menahan diri daripada makan minum dan nafsu syahwat

·         Peringkat khusus – menahan penglihatan, pendengaran dan semua anggota badan daripada perkara maksiat

·         Peringkat khusus khusus – menahan hati dan fikiran daripada lebih memikirkan hal-hal dunia

Takkan kita nak target puasa peringkat basic/awam je kan, so macam mana nak upgrade puasa kepada peringkat khusus? Caranya adalah melalui 6 rahsia ni

1.      Rendahkan /elakkan dan pelihara pandangan daripada melihat perkara-perkara mungkar, sekiranya terpandang, junjungan besar Nabi S.A.W kita suruh segara palingkan pandangan.

Sabda Nabi S.A.W. ‘pandangan adalah anak panah iblis, sesiapa yang menjaganya akan mendapat kemanisan beribadat’

2.      Jaga lidah daripada penipuan, gossip dan berkata perkara buruk. Elok diam jika tiada perkara baik yg boleh diucapkan. Kalau lidah kita sibuk berzikir dan baca Quran, tentu tak dan nak cakap benda-benda sia-sia dan buruk kan..bergossip tu memburukkan dan mengaibkan orang lain, balasan nya dihukum di neraka yang paling rendah..sanggup? tak sanggup teman..hehe..so eloklah kita cakap yang baik-baik je pasal kawan-kawan kita. Kata Iman Ghazali jika kita melihat kebaikan dalam setiap perkara –tenanglah hidup kita

3.      Berhenti daripada mendengar perkara yang haram. Boleh refer surah An-Nisaa, ayat 14

4.      Menahan anggota badan daripada perkara dosa dan perut daripada perkara syubhah

Mencegah kemungkaran sangat-sangat penting. Gagal mencegah kemungkaran adalah antara penyebab kemusnahan bani Israil

5.       Jangan makan berlebihan ketika berbuka puasa. Nabi S.A.W. berbuka dengan air masak sekiranya tiada tamar. Lepas berbuka, perut perlu rehat sebentar, sebab tu disunatkan solat Magrib dulu.

6.       Hendaklah hati mengharap agar puasa diterima Allah

‘sesungguhnya puasa adalah amanah. Jadi jagalah puasa sebaik mungkin’

Nabi S.A.W. tidak pernah tinggal puasa sunat isnin dan khamis dan hari 13,14,15 setiap bulan islam. Secara scientifiknya pada hari 13,14,15 tu bulan dalam keadaan mengambang dan darah dan nafsu manusia pada tahap yang agak tinggi. Kalau puasa pada hari-hari tersebut sangat bermanfaat untuk badan kita. Cantiknya Islam.

So, kawan-kawan, marilah kita berpuasa sunat dalam bulan Rejab ni. Bulan Ramadhan dah semakin hampir. Mudah2an Allah izinkan untuk menikmat keindahan bulan yang penuh barakah itu, amen. 

Hope it is final

I've wanted to deactivate my facebook long time ago for few reasons. The main reason is I do not why but I am happy not to be on that social networking at the moment. Besides, I am in my final year now and I really really need to focus on completing my work. After few days of suffering from low motivation, I decided to make small but significant changes to my daily routines, including withdrawing myself from the virtual life. Despite wanting to keep in touch with friends and relatives, that networking sometimes distract my attention and focus where my concentration has gotten shorter and shorter and I cannot afford that at the moment.

So, deactivating my account was the first thing that I did yesterday. How do I feel afterwards? I feel so so so good and I really wish not to return to that virtual life for some time. May Allah give me strength to resist any temptation to change this decision. It is final and there is no turning back. I prefer the real life..hehe...

Makan-makan

Hari ini kami makan-makan lagi. Kawan yang baru lulus viva berbesar hati belanja staf di 'dept' makan dan kami rakan-rakan senegara beliau dijemput sama. Semalam pun beliau belanja rakan-rakan senegara di sebuah restoran india. Memang benar kita tak tahu apa rezeki kita sebab saya dah bawa bekal untuk 'lunch' yang sudahnya menjadi 'dinner' untuk hari ni. Tak sangka pulak dapat rezeki makan besar di Amore restorente..apa-apa pun terima kasih kepada kawan ku itu. Banyak pahala dia belanja kami makan.

Pengajaran untuk saya hari ini adalah : tidak perlu risau tentang apa yang akan kita lalui atau dapat lepas ni dan pada masa hadapan kerana semua itu adalah hak Allah dan Allah itu Maha Pemurah lagi Maha Penyayang. Yang penting usaha, usaha, usaha, doa, doa, doa dan tawakkal. Penting jugak untuk teruskan menggapai cinta Allah kerana ia membawa kebahagiaan yang sungguh indah.

Saya ingin bahagia.

Mudah2an Allah sentiasa memberi petunjuk kepada ku dan muslimin seantero.

Muy bien. Cao. (very well, bye-bye)

81 Ways to win Wife's Love

I don't have any subject of interest to write lately as my mind is working on something of higher priority. However, I find this note quite relevant for successful marriage. So, I copy paste from Facebook here for my future reference. Hope it is useful to you too.

81 Ways to win Wife's Love

1. Make her feel secure, don't threaten her with divorce.
2. Give sincere Salaams.
3. Treat her gently, like a fragile vessel.
4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere.
5. Be generous with her.
6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart.
7. Avoid anger, be in Wudhu at all times.
8. Look good and smell great for your wife.
9. Don't be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken.
10. Be a good listener.
11. Yes for flattery. No for arguing.
12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, and names she loves
to hear.
13. A pleasant surprise.
14. Preserve and guard the tongue.
15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings.
16. Give sincere compliments.
17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family.
18. Speak of the topic of her interest.
19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is.
20. Give each other gifts.
21. Get rid of routine, surprise her.
22. Have a good opinion of each other.
23. Have good manners, overlook small things, don't nitpick.
24. Add a drop of patience, increase during pregnancy, menses.
25. Expect and respect her jealously.
26. Be humble.
27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers.
28. Help at home, with housework.
29. Help her love your relatives, but don't try to force her.
30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you.
31. Remember your wife in Du'a.
32. Leave the past for Allah, don't dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.
33. Don't act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah
is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family.
34. Take Shaitan as your enemy, not your wife.
35. Put food in your wife's mouth.
36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to
protect.
37. Show her your smile.
38. Don't ignore the small things, deal with them before they be come big.
39. Avoid being harsh-hearted.
40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking.
41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills.
42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within Halaal
boundaries.
43. Help her take care of the children.
44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments.
45. Sit down and eat meals together.
46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give
her sufficient notice.
47. Don't leave home in anger.
48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home.
49. Encourage each other in worship.
50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you.
51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times.
52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, don't jump on her like a bull.
53. Keep disputes between the two of you, don't take it outside.
54. Show care for her health and well-being.
55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself.
56. Share your happiness and sadness with her.
57. Have mercy for her weaknesses.
58. Be a firm support for her to lean on.
59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal.
60. Have a good intention for her.
61. Cook a dish for her.
62. Designate a nice, clean, spacious area in your home for the two of you
to pray at night whenever you can.
63. Women love flowers. Make a trail of them on the floor leading to the
gift you made for her.
64. Give her a nice massage when she least expects it.
65. Send your wife a text message out of the blue with a message of love.
66. Send your wife an email without a reason.
67. Go out on a date or a get-away for the weekend in a nice location,
preferably without kids.
68. Do something for your wife's family, whether it is a gift, or a chat
with her teen brother who needs mentoring, or whatever. It will get you lots
of brownie points.
69. Do not keep reminding and demanding your rights all the time.
70. Shop groceries for her and call her from the store and ask her what she
needs for the home, for herself or for her to give to people as gifts.
71. Ask her if she would like to invite her female friends over for ladies
only get together and arrange for the dinner.
72. Ask her to send gifts to her parents and siblings.
73. Help her parents pay off debt. Send her poor relatives some money.
74. Write love notes or poems and place them in the book she's been reading.
75. If she tells you something she had just learned from the Qur'an or
Hadith, do not dismiss her or ridicule her effort, instead listen to her and
take her word.
76. Plant her a kitchen garden with all kind of herbs she needs for cooking.
77. Adopt a kitten for her if she likes.
78. Update her PC or laptop with a new one or get her a new mobile phone.
79. Learn to do a special massage technique and surprise her with your new
expertise.
80. Teach your children to respect and honor their mother.
81. Be humorous with her when she makes a mistake in the kitchen (like when
she put too much salt or burnt her baking).

81 Ways to win Wife's Love

by HAPPY MUSLIM HUSBAND & WIFE on Wednesday, 21 April 2010 at 16:33

Viva questions

http://port.igrs.sas.ac.uk/videos/vivaquestions

My cherry berry cake

por que estoy mucho feliza ahora (why am i extremely happy now?) Kek cherry berry ku menjadi. dah lama mencuba untuk buat kek tapi selalu tak menjadi. Entah kenapa bila kat dalam oven tu elok je naik cantik tapi lepas tutup suis oven, kek akan perlahan-lahan turun. Yang sentiasa jadi hanyalah kek pisang, guna resepi makcik jiran kat kampung, resepi tradisional, takde guna butter2 nie..hehe..

Bila terjumpa kawan-kawan, saya selalu tanya macam mana nak buat kek yang naik dan kekal naik cantik, macam kek yg orang lain buat, yg selalu kita tengok dalam gambar tu. Ada yg kata kena pastikan suhu oven tu sesuai, ada yang kata kena pukul telur sekembang mungkin. Kali ni saya gabung beberapa petua,

1. pukul telur kena sampai betul2 kembang
2. tepung kena ayak beberapa kali
3. bila dah masak keluarkan, potong kek tu dan sengetkan potongan kek tu supaya ia tak dapat mendap

It works. Alhamdulillah. Kali ni dapatlah saya menikmati kek buatan sendiri, resepi sendiri - elok jer moist kek cherry berry ku ini. Nanti saya upload gambar kek purpleku itu.

Memang betul, jangan putus asa dalam apa jua yang kita buat, sekali tak berjaya, cuba lah lagi, insya-Allah menjadi .....

Something to ponder again

A friend once told me 'being married is like attending a school, learn, learn and learn..'. I think a wife really needs guidance and support from her husband to go through this informal learning process. I come across the following article and it makes me think how complete and beautiful Islamic marriage life is. A wife is not a maid, a cook or merely to bore offsprings but she is an honourable life companion for her husband. To all husbands out there, please give your wives their due respect. 

'Assalamu'alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

It is very important for every husband to understand his wife. Remember, A woman is like melted wax, and her husband can mold her into any shape he likes, with his love, tenderness and trust.
Prophet Mohammad (SalAllahu alaihi wassalam) said, "the best amongst you are the ones who are best to their wives." So dear muslim brother! Your obligations towards your wife are not limited to earn money and support her financially. A wife needs love from her husband, and emotional support to.


10 Tips on How to Be a Successful Husband


1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pajamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

(Dress up for your wife when you are at home also. Some brothers only dress up when they go out and that is not a good practice. A husband should dress up for his wife when they are at home. it makes a wife feel special)

2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

(Remember, you are your wife's only boyfriend, and her only best friend. She does not go out seeking boyfriends and she shares a halal relationship with you. Love her unconditionally for the sake of Allah. And express your love to her. A woman likes to be told that she is loved. Call her from your work to make sure she is doing fine. I have seen my dad calling my mother several times a day, just to make sure she has been eating well. And my husband calls me at least twice from work to make sure I am doing well. These things are very important in a relationship.)

3. Don't treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it 'bugs' us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day - which brings no attention from the husband - until she does something to 'bug' him. Don't treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

(Whenever there is a fight or argument, just remember all the things she does for you. she cooks for you, she takes care of your home, she takes care of your children and the most important thing is that she guards her modesty. So do not upset her if she is upset with you. hold her and tell her that you love her. Only your love can repel her anger. Communicate with her and discuss with her if there is any misunderstanding.)

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives - radi Allahu 'anhunn. It's a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.

(Do not criticize her all the time. Trust her and trust her decisions. If she is doing something that you don't like, or that goes against the teachings of Islam, then do advice her gently.)

"A companion asked Prophet saw: what is the right of a wife over her husband?’ He said, «That you feed her when you eat and clothe her when you clothe yourself and do not strike her face. Do not malign her and do not keep apart from her, except in the house." -Abu Daud.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

(Do let your wife know that you are very happy and blessed to have her. A wife always wonder how her husband feels about her. She may have some insecurity about you, so make her feel secure. Always give her a hug whenever you come back from work. appreciate her and thank her for taking care of everything whole day. If you are not too tired, go out for star gazing for an hour or so.)

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don't let that be; thank her!

(Write thank you notes for her and place those notes in her books, her purse, her socks, and anything else that belongs to her. You can use your own creativity to thank her. You can thank her by writing something on a mirror with her lipstick, so that she can read it when she wakes up in the morning. You can also thank her by arranging a candlelight dinner AT HOME, you be the cook and let her rest. So far I have learnt that a nice romantic dinner at home is much better than going out for dinner. This way a couple saves themselves from many fitnahs. You can thank her by writing her letters and emails. Remember, in Islam, everyday is special. So celebrate wife's day with her, and do it very often without having a particular date. She will always wonder when the wife's day is going to be. You can also give her a certificate of appreciation, or a best wife award on wife's day. Do everything by yourself that day and let her rest, this way you will also know how difficult it could be to do household chores. Thank her by building a webpage for her, write a note there and a poem and then ask her to visit your webpage. Thank her by recording a voice message on a cd for your wife. She will love it! Thank her by giving her a gift, and a gift does not have to be expensive. Be creative! You do not have to give her Roses, you can give her a leaf too! (My husband gave me a leaf once, instead of roses, and I was very happy and surprised, and I appreciated his creativity). So remember, thoughtful and creative gifts makes a wife feel secure and happy. Thank her by ordering a halal pizza for her, ask the restaurant to cut it in a heart shape and have it delivered with a personalized note. Thank her by thanking her in a family gathering. A woman likes it when her husband gives her attention. If you visit her parents or your parents, hold her hands and tell your parents how happy you are after marriage. Give your wife an Islamic book as a gift after praying Tahajjud. Use your imagination and think about unique gifts. Remember, she does not need a diamond, she needs your sincerity and your heart, so always give her the gifts that are thoughtful. Whenever you do something to make her happy, observe her facial expressions and ask yourself about how you feel when you become her happiness.)

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don't have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

(Also ask her to write down the things you did that she did not like, or the things you did that made her unhappy. Try to not do those things in future. If she falls ill, let her lay down, and read different surahs from Qura'an while placing your hand on her forehead. When I got sick, my husband recited Qura'an for me, it really helped a lot mashaAllah. Remember, a wife needs her husband the most when she is not feeling well. Take good care of her because a healthy wife makes a healthy family. Do not expect too much from her when she is sick.)

8. Don't belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah - radi Allahu 'anha - was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

(If there is a time of sadness, give her your shoulder to cry on. Hold her and tell her that everything will be fine. Alhamdulillah, my husband and my dad are amongst those muslim husbands who would even have tears in their eyes if their wives are sad. Remember, a woman does not like to cry alone in a corner. She needs someone to hold her when she is sad, so never let her feel lonely. Remind her the verses from Qura'an that talks about Patience and Piety.)

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - would race his wife Aisha - radi Allahu 'anha - in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

(Sense of humor plays a very important role in a marital relationship. Most women wish to have a husband who has a good sense of humor. Tell her decent and modest jokes that make her happy. Wife appreciates it very much if her husband makes her smile. You can play various games at home. Play with crayons, or have a pillow fight. Or hide different notes in your bedroom and ask her to find it. Think of different games you can both play. Do let her win sometimes! Do adopt interesting hobbies, such as reading, cooking together and gardening (grow a surprise rose plant in your garden, when you have the first rose blooming, take her to the garden and show it to her).
Newspaper and Sports Issue!
Men like to watch sports, or read newspaper. Most wives consider newspaper as their co-wives. So be very careful. If you are watching sports, turn the TV off if your wife comes around. Give her attention. Do not spend too much time reading newspaper, and do not read newspaper on the breakfast table, rather have an Islamic discussion. If you want to get her to like newspaper, then try to find something that interests her. Such as, try to find a news about Hijab. Or try to find a news about Muslim women for her.)

10. Always remember the words of Allah's Messenger - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: "The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family." Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah - azza wa jall - to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta'ala knows best !!

(And once again! Your wife is your best friend, and your girlfriend. Share everything with her. Remember she is your garment and you are her garment, so hide her faults and mistakes. Learn to forgive her. Also communicate a lot with her family. It really makes a difference if husband communicates with his in laws. It helps both husband's and wife's family to share a beautiful relationship. Respect her parents and show your love to her family. This will inspire her to love and respect your family. If her family is not muslim, do dawah to them in a beautiful way.)
Spend lots of time praying to Allah swt. Do fast often even if it is not Ramadan. Fasting brings patience and taqwah. Lead her in the prayer. There is nothing better than praying together. Remember Allah, so that Allah remembers you.
May Allah bless us and guide us all, Aameen.
Ma'a-salama -UY

by: Daily Qur'anic Verses by Toufique H. Sumon

Ujian Lisan - Moga berjaya :)

Ujian lisan adalah cara yg terbaik utk menyemak dan menguji tahap kepakaran dan pengetahuan kita dalam bidang yang kita pilih. Dalam bersedia untuk berjaya dalam ujian lisan dgn cemerlangnya, jangan lah kita lupa bersiap-sedia utk ujian lisan di hari akhirat yg jika berjaya kita akan bahagia selama-lamanya..:)

‘No examiner can be an expert in a student’s particular niche of work.  By the time you finalise your thesis, you and you alone are the world’s expert on what it contains.  Your task is to convince others of its value by marshalling evidence and arguing with it.  The features that make your work significant and original and worthy of a PhD…need to be argued cogently; each step needs to be spelled out, the outcomes must be stated unambiguously, and all their implications identified and discussed in depth’

P. Cryer The Research Student’s Guide to Success (OUP, 2000)

How to survive your PhD Viva

Recent research (see P. Tinkler and C. Jackson ‘The Viva’ in The Postgraduate’s Companion SAGE, 2008) suggests that the viva examination represents a range of purposes and, just as policies vary from institution to institution, expectations of the viva vary between individuals and disciplines.  It is therefore advisable that you discuss this with your supervisor(s) in advance of the examination for any details which might help you prepare more thoroughly.  As a general guide, the viva process is intended to examine some, or all, of the following:

• To check that you have followed institutional criteria
• Authentication – are you the author of the work?
• To establish your understanding of the broader research context – i.e. to discuss with you the wider implications of your research, perhaps things which you omitted from, or did not have much time to discuss in, your final thesis
• To check your understanding – of keywords, concepts, your research etc
• Defence of the thesis – although a viva is often also called a ‘thesis defence’, many PhD vivas are non-confrontational.  Defending your thesis means that you may have to respond to criticism and defend any decisions you made re the research
• The final decision – in some cases, the viva helps examiners to make a final decision as to the outcome.

It is recommended that doctoral students use a long-term strategy to plan for their viva.  To a certain extent, the activities which you undertake as part of the PhD process provide an excellent framework to develop the skills needed to successfully defend your thesis.

Conferences

Conferences are probably the best way to prepare for the viva.  Conferences expose doctoral candidates to the research culture of their discipline.  Conferences allow you to:

• Present your ideas orally through papers and/or posters
• Handle questions from an academic audience
• Be prompted to think about your research under pressure.
• Become attuned to how academics interact with one another
• Become exposed to different presentation styles
• See how academics pose and respond to questions.
• Prompt you to develop and expand your ideas and research
• Discuss your ideas with academics and other doctoral students
• Allow you to give and receive constructive feedback
• Ask questions of other people and their research
• Become aware of the dynamics of academic interaction

Supervision Meetings

Use your supervision meetings as a chance to speak about your research.  Clarify your understanding of your topic with your supervisor at each stage of the thesis.  The feedback you receive, both oral and written, will help you to tackle any issues.

Upgrades/panel reviews

By the time you reach the viva stage you will already have sat through several panel meetings.  These are an excellent way to prepare for your final examination.  Some students treat upgrades as ‘mock’ vivas.  It is a good idea to reflect on what went well/didn’t go well after each of these meetings.

‘Mock’ Vivas

Ask your supervisor if they think you would benefit from having a mock viva.

Teaching

Teaching is a fantastic way of clarifying your understanding of key ideas and concepts through explaining these to other learners.

Planning strategies

Those who have published widely on the viva examination all recommend that planning for the viva requires a long-term strategy.  Your examiners will be looking for several key things.  Above all your thesis should be:

• Well structured
• Argued cogently
• Relevant – to the discipline and the field
• Contain relevant and detailed examples
• Explicit in highlighting meanings
• Concise and thorough in the literature review
• Expansive and detailed in the areas where it makes significant and original contribution to knowledge

Your planning strategy therefore needs to take into account:

(a) What you will need to prepare

(b) How you will prepare

(c) When you will prepare

Types of Questions

There are various ‘types’ of questions which you can expect to be asked in the Viva.  They key to providing the right answer is knowing how to spot the ‘type’ of question being asked (adapted from Murray, 2008)

Open Questions

An open question gives you the opportunity to respond on your own terms.  Whilst this gives you the freedom to select and structure your answer form the variety of information available, it does not give you many clues about the sort of response the examiner is looking for.  Examples of open questions are: ‘What did you think about the outcome of your research?’, ‘What did you think of your results?’  It is a good idea to anticipate your responses to questions like these.

Closed Questions

Closed answers give you a choice of fixed answer.  For example: ‘what do you know about the work of x?’ – this means that you will need to know who x is, what they have contributed to the field, and then form an opinion about how it relates to your own work.  Closed questions are designed for candidates to give definitive answers and they test your skills and knowledge.

Probing Questions

Probing questions can follow other types of questions in the Viva examination.  For example, you might have given a response to a specific question that the examiner has asked you, and then they will ask you ‘why?’ or ‘Why not?’  This type of question is designed to probe you for more information.  The examiner(s) will use probing questions when they are trying to get more information from you, or to test the depth and quality of your knowledge.  A good way to prepare for a probing question is to clarify your own opinions properly before the examination.  Practice asking ‘why’ or ‘why not’ to the responses that you give to questions.

Understanding the Question

In your viva you need to make sure that you can answer questions under pressure and this requires practice.  If you are unsure about the question, then ask the examiner to repeat it.  If you are still unsure, relate back to the examiner what you thought you understood from the question and they will be able to clarify whether you are correct.  A good strategy for this is to re-phrase the question, which helps you to clarify what is required of you in your own mind.

Typical Viva Questions

Below is a list of typical viva questions (extracted from various sources).  Feel free to think of your own questions.  It is also a good idea to talk to your supervisor(s) about questions which you might anticipate.

Typical Viva Questions

Below is a list of typical viva questions (extracted from various sources).  Feel free to think of your own questions.  It is also a good idea to talk to your supervisor(s) about questions which you might anticipate.

1. Please summarise your thesis
2. Summarise your key findings
3. What is original about your thesis?
4. What are the strongest / weakest parts of your work?
5. What are the main issues / debates in your subject area?
6. What were the crucial research decisions that you made?
7. How did you tackle the ethical implications of your work?
8. How did you access resources for your research?
9. How have you evaluated your work?
10. Who is your audience?
11. Why have you tackled the problem in this way?
12. What is the agreed methodology in your discipline?
13. What do your results mean?
14. Do you anticipate publishing the material?  And, if so, what aspects?
15. How could you improve your thesis?
16. How has your view of the research altered or developed?
17. Does your work have value to practitioners?
18. What researchers would be interested in your work?
19. What had not been done on this topic before?
20. Who will use your material?
21. How did you manage the information you collected?
22. What models did you use?
23. Are the techniques you have used appropriate for this topic?
24. What are the theoretical underpinnings to your work?
25. How did you use a conceptual framework to design your research and analyse your findings?
26. How did your understanding of the conceptual aspects of your work help you to put a research framework together?
27. Is your writing style appropriate for this topic?
28. Tell me how your work differs from that of x?
29. Who would be most likely to agree with your findings?
30. Who would be most likely to disagree with your findings?
31. How long do you expect your work to remain innovative?
32. What sets your work apart from others?
33. How did you resolve any issues which arose in the course of your research?
34. How did you use the x you used in your methodology?
35. What do you mean when you use the term x?
36. You seem unsure about x why is that?
37. Why should we accept your interpretation of x?
38. What have you learned from the process of doing a PhD?
39. How has the research training you have received helped you?
40. How did you deal with the fieldwork aspect of your study?
41. Do you think that your recommendations are feasible?
42. Is there scope for further study on this topic?
43. Do your contributions have a limited timescale?
44. How did you ensure that your study remained objective?
45. What have you done that merits a PhD?

source (http://pgrdocblog.wordpress.com/2009/11/06/how-to-survive-your-viva/)

Solat & Sabar

Sungguh seronok bila baca Quran. Lebih seronok bila mengetahui yg lebih bagus kalau baca, faham dan amalkan (pengajaran daripada kuliah Jumaat lepas). Jadi, sekarang, bila baca Quran saya akan menatap baik-baik tafsiran setiap ayat-ayat Allah. Dalam hati saya berdoa moga Allah pelihara saya daripada tersalah faham tafsiran tersebut. Saya belum menguasai bahasa Al-Quran, mahir bahasa Arab adalah impian saya yg masih belum tercapai. Akan diusahakan, insya-Allah.

Antaranya ayat di bawah yg menjadi peringatan yang baik untuk saya supaya tekun berusaha bersungguh untuk mencapai apa yg saya impikan - Allah bersama-sama orang-orang beriman yang memohon pertolongan Allah dengan bersolat dan bersabar. Tak perlu saya gusar dengan pandangan dan kritikan orang lain kerana saya ada Allah untuk bergantung dan memohon pertolongan.

'O ye who believe! Seek help in steadfastness and prayer. Lo! Allah is with the steadfast.' verse (153), Surah Baqarah


Teruskan berusaha saudara-saudara seagamaku, moga kita berjaya di dunia dan di akhirat, ameen.

Azan – rinduku terubat

Sejak dua menjak ni lama pulak saya menghabiskan masa di ‘internet’ sampai rasa bersalah sebab tidak menggunakan ‘internet’ untuk menambah saham akhirat. Alhamdulillah, hari ni saya diberikan Allah ilham untuk ‘download’ ‘free athan from Islamic finder’. Mudah2an lepas ni berkumandang azan di ‘rumahku syurgaku’ ni  dan menjadi peringatan utkku tentang masa. Selain mengubat rindu utk dengar azan, Ramadhan pun dah nak kembali bertamu. Sesape nak ‘install azan’ ni, silalah klik di sini.

  http://athan.islamicfinder.org/athan/basic/AthanBasic.exe

kalau tak boleh melalui link di atas, cuba yg ni pulak,


http://www.islamicfinder.org/athanDownload.php

Moga bermanfaat.

Bahagia itu pilihan

Segar sikit hati ni selepas mengikuti kuliah agama tadi. Antara pengajaran yang saya dapat adalah iman kita perlu diperbaharui. Sekurang-kurangnya kita mengucap syahadah 9 kali sehari (dalam tahayat solat). Kena cari cara utk ‘renew’ syahadah ni bila dapat cuti daripada solat, kalau tak mau rasa kosong semacam jer. Walaupun zaman berteknologi ni membolehkan kita boleh dengar ceramah agama kat rumah, kesannya lain, rasa lebih nikmat kalau kita hadiri sendiri kelas-kelas atau kuliah-kuliah agama.

Petang tadi ketika rasa sedikit kosong, saya dengar beberapa video ceramah dan antaranya kisah Imam Ahmad bin Hambal sangat menginsafkan. Begitu banyak cabaran dan kesusahannya dalam mencari ilmu dan bagaimana tingginya imannya sehingga Allah izinkan mampu menghadapi pelbagai cabaran dalam menegakkan yang benar. Rugi kita kalau tak ambil peluang untuk mencari ilmu dengan menghadiri ceramah-ceramah agama yang ada di merata-rata tempat.  

‘Verily, Allah elevates some people with this Quran and abases others’ [Muslim]

Kumpulan mana yang kita nak masuk, yang Allah tingkatkan darjatnya kah? Tanya hati buatlah pilihan.   

Hola

I love learning new languages and am very excited and happy when I discover these videos, more effective than simply reading the books. It’s Spanish now, next French..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j91m55N7e9I

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqylyY6sXbA&NR=1
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tRp99zh9XMM&NR=1

Enjoy!

Perlukan perhatian?

Bagaimanakah keadaan rakyat Malaysia sekarang ni? Khabarnya kos hidup semakin mengingkat, yang berada-ada dan kaya mungkin tidak ambil pusing akan hal ni tapi bagaimana dengan yang serba kekurangan, yang hanya cukup-cukup makan atau tak pernah cukup? Walaupun saya punyai banyak minat tapi saya kurang sikit minat politik sebab pada saya dunia politik di negara kita masih di takuk lama, ahli-ahli politik yang tidak berapa professional dan tidak menjaga ‘code of conduct’ membuatkan dunia politik begitu tercemar. Tidak dinafikan ramai juga ahli politik yang baik dan berusaha untuk memajukan kawasan dan negara tapi mereka ni dibayangi oleh mereka yang berpolitik untuk kepentingan sendiri. Saya rasa konsep ‘competence in fact and in appearance’ sangat penting. Mana-mana ahli politik yang beria-ria mengatakan mereka berkhidmat untuk rakyat and negara kena buktikan kata-kata dengan tindakan yang sewajarnya. Kalau tak sampai bila masa dan tenaga kita terbazir berdebat tentang hal-hal yang tak signifikan. Rakyat yang miskin dan serba kekurangan perlukan perhatian pemimpin terutamanya dalam memastikan mereka dapat meneruskan kesinabungan hidup dan yang pentingnya agar anak-anak mereka dapat pendidikan yang ke peringkat yang tinggi agar dapat membantu membuat anjakan paradigm ke atas tahap kualiti hidup mereka.

Semasa saya berjalan menuju ke pejabat pos semalam, saya perhatikan golongan senior/tua di sini terjaga secara langsung dan tak lansung. Saya fikir mereka cukup wang kerana saya lihat mereka begitu gembira bersantai di kafe-kafe dan berjalan-jalan di bandar. Saya fikir mereka selesa dengan tahap keselamatan mereka kerana dua orang tua yang berjalan di hadapan saya boleh dengan selesanya menghayung beg-beg tangan mereka sampai saya boleh nampak isi beg-dompet duit. Masakan mereka boleh buat begitu sekiranya mereka bimbang beg-beg mereka diragut atau dompet duit mereka dicopet pencuri. Saya terfikir, sekiranya Allah izinkan saya hidup hingga umur lanjut macam mereka ni, bolehkan saya berjalan dengan begitu santai dengan insan tersayang. Adakah saya perlukan ‘bodyguard’? hehehe...Golongan miskin dan orang-orang tua perlukan perhatian kerajaan (polis dan pejabat daerah dan bandar, komuniti, dan lain-lain) agar boleh terus menikmati hidup ni sebaiknya. Apa salahnya kerajaan memberi bantuan kepada golongan miskin dan tua secukup dan sewajarnya agar hidup mereka lebih terurus. Kenapa kerajaan tak mampu untuk memastikan zero pendatang tanpa izin? Adakah kerajaan tak serius dalam hal ni? Bukan apa ‘foreigners’ yang tinggal di negara kita mesti mendapat kebenaran agar dapat dipantau sebab banyak juga ‘foreigners’ merompak dan mencuri dan mengancam keselamatan kita. Mana-mana yang masuk secara sah tu perlulah dilayan  atas dasar asas kemanusiaan.  

Serius pulak coretan saya kali ni..sekali sekala kan...Moga Malaysia Makmur!

Akhirnya

Seorang lagi rakanku pergi menemui ilahi. Setelah bertahun-tahun berjuang melawan penyakitnya, akhirnya belia pergi semalam. Al-Fatihah. Semasa di sekolah, beliau seorang yang sangat ceria, happy-go-lucky dan sihat. Tapi Allah menduganya dengan penyakit yang kronik. Kalau difikirkan tak tertanggung badannya yang kecik tu melawan kesakitan. Beliau tabah dan kuat semangat. Semasa menghembuskan nafasnya yang terakhir semalam, anak tunggalnya, Wafiey sedang menunaikan umrah bersama ibu-ibu saudaranya. Doa Irma untuk bertahan sehingga anaknya balik ke Malaysia tidak tercapai. Benarlah ajal, bila tiba masanya, ia takkan tertangguh walau sesaat pun. Allahuakbar.

Ramai juga rakan-rakan sebaya yang telah pergi. Ramai juga yang menanggung pelbagai dugaan hidup, daripada sihat kepada mengalami ‘severe depression’ dan terpaksa bergantung dengan pil-pil penenang. Banyak nikmat dunia yang hilang. Pendek cerita, setiap orang ada dugaan hidup, tak kira sape, doktor, jurutera dan lain-lain.  Sebab tu saya takut untuk berbuat sesuatu yang tidak disukai Allah.

Tika di sekolah, ada kawan-kawan yang mempersoalkan peribadi saya. Mereka tidak bersetuju kerana pada mata mereka saya terlampau baik. Selalunya saya akan jawab sebab ibu bapa saya baik. Ummi saya tersangatlah baik. Seandainya ummi ada sekilo beras sahaja, semua tu akan disedekahkan sekiranya ada yang meminta. Tersangat mulia hati ibuku. Bapa ku tidak putus-putus mengingatkan kami supaya menggunakan sepenuh peluang yang Allah bagi untuk berbuat baik. ‘biar sedikit asal berkat’, ‘hati kena bersih’ dan ‘hidup hendaklah bertujuan, dan tujuan hidup adalah keredhaan Allah’ adalah contoh kata-kata iklan abah sewaktu brsembang atau berseloroh dengan ahli keluarganya. Sekali-sekala ‘cashier’ atau ‘penjual’ terlebih bagi duit baki, dan abah akan kembalikan duit itu walaupun kami telah sampai ke rumah. Abah sangat berhati-hati agar tidak terambil hak orang lain. Bila dah besar sikit saya akan jadi tukang semak resit dan duit baki. Pernah saya terlupa nak ‘check’ dan memang duit baki terlebih. Masa tu dah sampai rumah, tak tenang hati saya sehingga kami pulangkan duit tu. Saya tak boleh terambil duit atau hak orang lain sebab hati akan jadi tak keruan.  Jadi saya sangat takut untuk melanggar perintah Allah.

Seorang doktor di kampung saya, sahabat baik abah pun suka memberi nasihat kepada saya setiap kali saya ke kliniknya. Nasihatnya yang saya takkan lupa, insya-Allah adalah ‘berdoalah supaya panjang umur dalam berbuat kebaikan’. Beliau, seorang doktor yang sangat berjaya, kliniknya sentiasa penuh dan masjid yang diuruskan beliau bertambah ‘meriah’. Alhamdulillah. Beliau juga ada berkata ‘sekiranya isteri beliau pergi, insya-Allah, beliau dan anak-anak akan uruskan sendiri, tak perlu panggil orang luar’. Anak-anaknya semua berjaya ke university dan sudah ada yang jadi doktor dan bakal ambil-alih kllinik Dr. dan yang paling mengujakan adalah terserlah perasaan kasih dan sayang terhadap isterinya. Bertuahnya isteri Dr. R. 

Moralnya di sini, untuk sahabat-sahabat yang belum berkahwin, pilihlah seseorang yang teguh agamanya sebab orang yang beragama jelas tujuan hidupnya, jelas panduan hidupnya, dan jelas modul kehidupannya. Sedikit sebanyak nilai-nilai itu akan diwarisi oleh anak-anak. Dan untuk dapat jodoh yang baik kita pun perlu baik. Jangan rasa rugi jadi baik dan sentiasa nak jadi baik kerana rahmat dan kasih-sayang Allah lebih hampir dengan mereka yang berhati baik dan sentiasa bertaubat dan berbuat baik, insya-Allah. Bagi saya, jadi baik ‘is part of it’, berterusan jadi baik  lebih utama, dan ramai lagi orang lain yang lebih baik daripada saya, saya masih banyak kekurangan dan kelemahan, kadang-kadang tersalah perkiraan, tapi saya berazam untuk terus memperbaiki diri, insya-Allah. Mari kita dengar lagu nie. 

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